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Friday, June 12, 2020

Lipstick & Hats Off!: Embracing Freedom of Speech and Social Media Liberty



If you’re here, then you probably read my Facebook post about me leaving (or was it me being asked to leave?) the airline I’ve worked for almost 10 years, and it was more of a love letter to my peers than anything else. I’ll be honest: it was not the initial intention. 

Truth is, I saw so many people lose their jobs on this massive firing show we are currently experiencing, I saw everyone panicking, a large number of questions and very little answers. Noticing all this, my goal was to create awareness regarding the situation, and how mindful we should be about asking questions to people who were going through a very difficult time.
But as the morning went on, I saw what seemed like true chaos and, to be fair, I recognized myself in that panic state: I had been in it a month before.

Consequently, the post mutated into caring words towards whoever was going through whatever feelings they were going through. Why? Because it stunk for me, and because I would have liked to have someone who had gone through the same situation acknowledge what I felt and help me get through it.

Don’t get me wrong, I have an amazing support system. But reality is that I would have loved to have someone who went through the same states and moods I went through tell me that “this, too, shall pass” and I was going to be okay (and that the 1 million daily mood swings would eventually end)

I was on the first round of people being let go, and it wasn’t cool. To be honest with you, I felt quite embarrassed. I was told that I got sick too often at the beginning of my career (2010) and that I got sick a little too much towards the end, twice in 18 months… really guys?
I was angry, I felt offended and felt there was no justice in this whole situation.
Basically, I was being blamed for being human, and it made no sense at all in my mind. However, I accepted it and even if I knew it was wrong to do so, I internally took the blame and carried that with me for weeks.

But then…lightbulb! 

I do therapy (before you judge, keep in mind therapists also do therapy, otherwise they lose it!) and in one of the sessions I was told to just stop. I believe the words “brain” and “wash” were thrown somewhere in the mix, and it made total sense to me. Now, I’m not saying that I was sat down to watch corporate videos while tied up and had ice-cold water thrown in my face whenever I didn’t agree with the footage, but there are little things that can be done to kind of shape or groom the way you think, and we don’t even notice them.

So I decided I was going to deal with this the same way I’ve dealt with break-ups: 

  1. I was going to allow myself to be miserable for a bit (cry, eat whatever I wanted and have a glass of wine or two)
  2. I was going to do whatever would make me feel better (even if it was perceived as rude, like not talk to people and ignore nosy messages)
  3. I would be angry and hurt (and unleash the anger monster on whoever ticked me off - I’m looking at you HR)
  4. And after I felt like I was done ranting and letting it all out, I would make my peace with it, wish my beloved the very best and focus my energy in the future.

After I made it to the last step (by the way, achieving this step took me weeks, and it wasn’t easy) all my love was poured out in the shape of support for whoever was/is struggling in my community… and it felt good. 
Do I feel like someone wronged me? Yes, I do. 
Do I still get mad at times? I certainly do. 
Do I think there are better things coming? You bet your flying behind I do! 

Allow yourself to feel like crap, reach out, open up to those around you. You may get help offered from those you least expect. Hopelessness, sadness, desperation and worry, they don’t last forever. Lean on those who want to help and lend you an ear, even if you don’t know them. 

I think during these times, it is necessary we create this “galley feeling”, that little kitchen on the plane where you united with your community and shared your thoughts, good and bad, pretty and ugly. That sensation that you can trust a person you had just met with a secret or a problem you had. So many years of giving and receiving jumpseat therapy taught me that there is an important factor in talking about what bothers you, knowing that others are going through something similar and get a little insight that may make your lightbulb go off, too.

How are you coping through these difficult times? What do you miss the most? What would you tell others or yourself? Let’s do a little galley talk down at the comment section or if you want a little privacy you can click here.

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  1. Thank you for sharing your experience and feelings; this cloud shall pass at some point. I wish you the best for the coming days.

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    1. Thank you for your comment! Things will only get better, optimism is key! Lots of love x

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